Unlocking Faith In Our Son

So, tonight was one of those nights where life took a sharp left in the midst of what was playing out to be a moment of internal celebration about how “awesome” I think I am.

Act I: The original plan

I was on a roll most of the day. I had a very productive day at work and ministering to different youth and young adults. Then I headed home to grab a quick bite of dinner (delicious meal Melissa prepared for everyone by the way) and then load the family up in the car to go see one of our youth ministry students perform in a middle school rendition of Annie (awesome show for just 4 weeks of prep and a poorly lit state). The student was excited to see us there, my kids thought seeing Annie live was the coolest thing ever, and Melissa was giving me that look of approval that says, “I think you’re a stud.” By this time I’m on top of the world. The show ended and we headed back home to tuck the kids in, spend some time together working on adoption stuff, and bask in the glory of a day well spent.

Act II: The Backstory

We parked in the driveway and headed towards the garage door. Now, you have to understand some backstory here to get what happens next. About 6 months ago Melissa was heading to the gym. In an effort to gain a crucial 5 seconds of workout time she gunned the car in reverse just before the garage door could clear the roof of her van. I’m not sure how the physics of this actually happened, but when I stepped into the garage to figure out what I had just heard from the kitchen, the garage door was hanging crooked on its tracks and bent in all sorts of directions. My attempts to fix it were quite the sit-com script that ended with the entire garage door crashing down at my bare feet. Somehow I escaped with all 10 toes still in tact. My next move was to call a repair man. In the process of my playing “Mr. Fixit” I apparently burned out the motor on the opener and so the last couple of months we have had to manually lift and lower our garage door (Yes, I need to buy a new opener).

So, when we got home from the play we all walked towards the garage door to go inside, let the dog out, and get ready for bed.

Backstory number two:  Our garage door has a handle on the outside that allows you to lock it so it can’t be raised. Another point of importance is that all of the doors that enter into our house have a flip latch on them that is only accessible from inside the house and not by a key. In other words…if the handle on the garage door gets turned and locked while the flip latches on all the doors are closed, then we are up the creek in regards to getting into our house.

Act III: Unlocking faith

As we approached the garage Ethan’s (our almost 6 year old) curiosity got the best of him. I mean, what would you do? You see a shiny handle, a big door, and no one has ever told you that turning that handle could be a bad idea. You turn the handle don’t you? I would, you would, and Ethan certainly would because that is exactly what he did. Now, picture in your mind that slow motion scene in the movies when someone is about to do something they shouldn’t and the other guy lunges, reaches out his hands, and screams, “noooooooooooooooo…” It was too late. Ethan flipped the handle before I could stop him (stupid slow motion).

Seeing mine, and Melissa’s, not very well thought through reactions, the reality hit Ethan that he had just done something that was not so awesome. When he realized that “not so awesome” thing was locking us out of the house he felt horrible and became increasingly stressed over the fact that Copper, our 10 pound Poodle, was inside the house without food or water. My perfect, “father of the year” day began to spiral out of control. Bedtime for the kids was quickly getting away from us, Ethan was a mess of snot and tears, and after pretending like I could somehow save the day, I had to admit to my son that, “Daddy can’t fix this one,” and call a locksmith. I  got what sounded like a lady sitting in her kitchen asking me for my information so she could send her husband over to break into my house. At this point I was willing to take the risk. It didn’t help that the 10 minute wait time she promised turned into 45 minutes. Neither did it help that our Poodle was standing in the window looking at us with the saddest little face imaginable yelping and clawing at the window like he really was about to fall over dead from starvation. The stress level was rising. I was a little irritated and Melissa kept asking me when the guy was going to be there. Something needed to happen.

The guy eventually showed up and his first words were, “They didn’t tell me it was a garage door.” Awesome! He then looked at me and said, “I’ve never done this before so let’s hope it works.” My fingers are crossed buddy.

At this time Ethan is calmed down and watching intently as this guy wedges two metal picks into our lock and jiggles profusely. Nothing, nothing, nothing… Then suddenly, pop! The garage door opens, the dog is rescued from certain peril, and the world is once again restored to equilibrium. The cost of this restoration? $125! Double awesome. But, the reason this story made our blog post is because of what happened next that made the whole fiasco all worth the time, frustration, embarrassment and money.

Ethan, who was freaking out just 30 minutes prior, runs up to Melissa and me as we walked into the house and with the sweetest smile on his face tells us, “I did a prayer and God did it.”

Not quite sure what he was talking about we responded, “Really buddy? What’d you pray for?”

“I asked God to give the man the right tools and to open the lock because He [God] was able to help David kill the giant. And God answered me!” was his reply.

And that is when the frustration, chaos and loss of time suddenly made sense. In that moment I realized that the simple turning of a handle had forced us to slow down. It prompted us to sit there and enjoy a beautiful night outside together as a family. And, most importantly, it gave my boy an opportunity to not only trust God for something that was huge in his mind, but to also see God’s faithfulness to hear our prayers and meet our needs.

You know, it is so easy to get caught up in the expectations of a daily routine, to grow accustomed to a life that has you at the center. And, when that routine gets altered in the slightest way we love to express our disappointment in the fact that we have now been inconvenienced. The problem, however, is that when it comes to parenting those expectations can, and will, often blind us to the amazing opportunities to enjoy the adventure God has called us to with our little ones. One thing I forgot to mention…in an attempt to console Ethan, he and I grabbed a spare baseball in the yard and played toss while Kiley twirled around the yard gazing up at the stars and Landon played “stuntman” by repeatedly jumping off the trunk of my car into the grass.

Had we not been locked out we would have been brushing teeth, putting on pajamas, reading books, and getting into bed…you know the usual routine. But as it were, our family had a moment of freedom where we got to just enjoy the beauty of the unexpected.


That is worth way more than $125 or the most perfect day.  I love it when life happens!

Ethan's face painting skills displayed

2 Replies to “Unlocking Faith In Our Son”

  1. Love this story- thanks for helping me to remember the adventure God has called me to with this wonderful life I have with my precious husband and two kids! So excited for y’all! Can’t wait to hear more on the progress of your growing family.

  2. I loved this story! Thanks for the reality check and proper perspective! It made me think of the many times just today where little inconveniences caused unnecessary frustrations b /c I had the wrong perspective!

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